Thursday, October 13, 2016

A kiss can make you feel everything, or it can make you feel nothing. Therefore, a common purpose of the kiss is helping determine your attraction to someone. A kiss can make or break your relationship: it is the separator between friend and lover.

It could be argued that a kiss is just as intimate as sex, and makes just as much of an impact. I remember certain kisses more than most of my sexual encounters.

Here are my ingredients for a good kiss:

1. Freshen Up

It's common sense, but too many people are guilty of having bad breath. Bad breath can happen to you! Practice self-awareness and make sure you keep your teeth clean and your breath fresh. It doesn't matter how good a kisser you are, bad breath will ruin everything.

2. Build the Moment

Whether it's the end of a first date, or after a few weeks of dating, the anticipation you build creates tension and you break the tension with a kiss. It's like the anxious moments in any good developing story. Make sure you don't wait so long that the other person questions whether you're interested in them...or the opposite sex, as I'm prone to do.

3. Work Your Eyes

When you're leaning in for a kiss, you can't use your mouth to speak, so why not say something with eye contact? But, I make sure to close my eyes during the actual kiss because it's a little creepy when one of us has our eyes open, and it can be distracting. For instance, I couldn't have kissed anyone with my eyes open this past week with Discovery Channel on in the background because it was Shark Week-- I would have totally suck some peeks at the TV. They say that blind people's senses other than sight are enhanced. Temporary blindness during a kiss may intensify the way a kiss feels, the sound of another person's breathing, or the touch of their hand.

4. Don't Try to Control It, Let It Control You

A good kiss is powerful, so you should just let it grip you and go with it. The moment is broken if you try to control it.

5. Kiss People You Like

We are all guilty of kissing people we weren't into: maybe on the dance floor, or during a moment of weakness late night in the bar. If you only kiss people you really want to kiss, those kisses will be a lot better. Kissing too many people might lead to numbness. But on the other hand, some people might tell you "practice makes perfect".

6. Sit Back and Relax

Kissing is a team effort. Don't squelch someone's spirit by going on the offensive or taking control. Feel each other's tendencies out, and go from there.

7. Mind Your Tongue

Tongue use can be great, or horrible. My buddy was dating a girl who continuously licked his face when they kissed. It led to them breaking up. Remember, it's a kiss, not a facial wash. No one likes to be attacked by a tongue, or have their entire mouth filled by someone's tongue. But a tongue used well can make a kiss great.

8. Be Spontaneous 

Catching someone off guard with a kiss can be a wonderful thing. Give them a little gift when they least expect it.

9. Pay Attention to Surroundings

Whether it's candlelight, a tent under the stars, in the ocean, or in a sudden rain storm, special/new surroundings make a kiss interesting. Because your eyes are closed most of the time during a kiss, you'll hear and even feel the things that are going on around you more clearly.

10. Control Your Saliva 

Make sure, like your tongue, you control your saliva. Don't create river of slobber down your chins.

11. Use Your Hands

Don't get fixated on someone's face. Touching their neck or sides, or just holding them close during a kiss makes it even better.

12. Lay Off the Drink

I came to a sad realization the other day that I have not kissed a girl sober in a very long time. Naturally, I haven't been in relationship that worked out for a long time. Sure, it's fun to split a bottle of wine and smooch a bit, but I bet that the best kisses occur when we are sober.

What are your ingredients for a good kiss and what do you think of mine? What kisses do you remember for being great or being horrible and why? What are the best and worst things someone can do during a kiss?


HOW TO DO IT PERFECTLY?


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1. Don't put thy tongue before thy mouth. Some people lead with the tongue and I truly don't understand why. The tongue is a garnish: If things are going well with the tongue then cool, use more tongue. Otherwise, keep the training wheels on for a while, lest you scare her.

2. Stop thinking so much about your next move. This is not chess. It's kissing. And while it's tempting to want to overanalyze what the other person will probably do next so you can be #prepared, all it really does is take you out of the moment, which the opposite of where you want to be.

3. You can only take teasing so far before you become a diiiick. So when you keep pulling away like you're trying to tease your girl, eventually she's going to feel like you're screwing with her, which honestly? You are.

4. Definitely try to control your saliva so it does not become a river that runs through you both. When guys don't seem to understand this and you only discover that fact because you are drowning in a sea of their spit and you feel like you need a cup to spit some of it into? Yeah. That.

5. If you don't know for a fact that they like hard biting, don't lead with hard biting. A lip bite can be cool but some people don't like it or they like varied levels of pressure. If you're not sure which one they're into, do not sink your teeth into their lips like you're eating steak.

6. Passion is good. Punching their face with your face is not good at all. Pressure can be a great thing but if you feel like they're leaning away from you to alleviate some of that pressure, ease up. That said...

7. Lean in, man! Again, this is about balance, but I've definitely had more guys who were too gentle and almost felt like they were on sedatives while kissing me. Gentle is a great starting place but there's a reason why movie kisses are hard and passionate and not passive and sleepy.

8. Listen to what their mouth is trying to tell you. A lot of the time, the way your partner is kissing you is the way your partner wants to be kissed. So in the beginning especially, pay attention to how they're kissing you and where they're kissing you because in all likelihood, that's what they're hoping for on your end as well.

9. For christ's sake, don't just stick to the lips. Yes, that's a great place to start but may I also present to you: the neck, the ears, the cheeks, the nose, all very kissable places for very different reasons.

10. Never go from 0 (kissing) to 60 (crazy sex action) unless they explicitly tell you they want that. One time I had a guy go from kissing me to his hand down my pants in record time and I'd never, ever told him I had any interest in that. It was horrifying, neither felt good, and honestly, it made me want to smack him and never kiss anyone again. Move slowly, observe your partner, and ask if they don't specifically tell you, but good god, do not be that shit slice.

11. Keep your mind from drifting off into your to-do list. You're kissing someone you genuinely like. Think about how often that happens. Not that often! Remembering all the reasons you wanted to kiss them in the first place will make the kissing better for you and for them. (Plus, let's be honest, you're not going to organize your closet by color. You live in a pile of clothes and probably always will. It's fine.)


HOW TO DO IT?


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As far as I’m concerned, there are few things as adorable as sweet old couples. Think about it: how many times have you cracked a smile at a pair of cute old-timers holding hands in the street? If you’re anything like me, seeing love thrive for so long and endure the test of time is not only heart-warming, it’s inspirational. It makes me want to work that much harder on my own relationship so that one day my other half and I can one day too rock matching canes! Sweet old couples remind us that if you try hard enough, anything is possible—even epic love stories spanning generations. With that said, here are 27 lessons about love that we can learn from possibly the greatest relationship gurus out there!

1. Don’t forget the small touches


While grand, sweeping gestures are lovely every once in a while, it’s the little, frequent ones that will make your partner feel loved on a daily basis. A kiss hello or goodbye, a cup of tea while your other half is working to show them you care, a quick shoulder rub in front of the television, a single rose if you’re feeling particularly romantic, or simply offering to take the rubbish out for once. You may find these things insignificant, but the small things really do nurture relationships in time.

2. “Love is not a matter of counting the years, But making the years count.” (Michelle Amand)


3. Couples who laugh together stay together!


Sharing a giggle with the one you love has to be one of the most invigorating and bond-strengthening things ever, am I right? If you can’t quite get the laughs going on your own, why not pop a funny film on the television or watch a silly video on YouTube together? You’ll not only feel happier, but also closer to your partner.

4. Get physical


No, I don’t mean that (although that’s fantastic, too!)—but physical contact with your lover is crucial to keeping that feeling of intimacy going over the years. It doesn’t have to be massively awkward public displays of affection (no-one wants to be that couple, surely?) but a kiss on the forehead, a comforting stroke on the back of the neck, a massage or even holding hands will help you feel more connected to your partner. Give it a try!

5. Listen to each other


This may seem like Relationship 101, but it’s incredibly easy to fall off the bandwagon, even with the basics! Being available to listen to your partner when she or he is having a bad day, being there to share their personal victories or hearing them out in an argument instead of ignoring them and getting your say no matter what are simple steps you can take to help your couple thrive over time. Having said that…

6. “You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.” (Sam Keen)


7. Communicate, communicate, communicate!


No matter how close you are with your other half, most of the time, they won’t be able to magically sense when you’re upset unless you get your feelings out in the open. Don’t be afraid to let it all out and communicate with your partner: keeping your thoughts bottled up is a surefire way to build up resentment over the years, while sharing them will lead to a closer relationship.

8. Celebrate the good times together…


While this doesn’t have to involve jumping on beds together (although, why the heck not?!), there’s something to be said for sharing happy moments with your sweetheart! Bonding over something that brings you joy is exhilarating and will make you feel closer than ever. With that said…

9. …And support each other through the bad


When things go south, be there for each other. Just like sharing the good times will make you feel closer to one another, supporting each other through rough patches will make you feel like a team.

10. “Love is to love someone for who they are, who they were, and who they will be.” (Chris Moore)


11. Remember where you started


If you’re feeling a bit blah about your relationship (don’t beat yourself up, it happens!), cast your mind back to where it all began for you two! Think of happy moments and experiences you’ve shared, and remember why you fell in love in the first place. In fact, why not take this trip down memory lane with your other half? If you have photos (and a glass of wine), even better!

12. Love isn’t always easy (but it’s oh-so worth it)


These sweet old couples have been through thick and thin together; they’ve weathered their share of arguments. It can’t always have been easy, but then, neither life nor love are! Sticking together even through the rough patches is a test of character and of the strength of your love: if you can make it through the storm, there’s nothing that’ll get in your way!

13. Celebrate your love


You might not be into Valentine’s Day—no matter! Find little, cute ways to celebrate your relationship. It can be a card on that most romantic of days, it can be breakfast in bed in memory of the day you first met, or a glass of champagne together in the spot you shared your first kiss. It all comes down to showing each other how much you value your love!


14. “Love is what you’ve been through with somebody.” (James Thurber)


15. Date


If there’s one thing I’ve learned over the years and that these cute oldies will agree with, is the importance of dating. Even if you’ve been together for years and years, keeping a date night ritual once a week or twice a month is a lovely way to keep the romance going in your relationship! Try picking a different restaurant every month or so, go for long walks together or simply spending some quality time together, far from the madding crowd.

16. Remember that love is a long-lasting friendship


Sure, your other half is your love interest, but they’re also (or should be!) one of your closest friends. Be silly together! Be open with each other and support each other like friends would. Have fun together. Being friends as well as lovers will add another layer to your relationship. Nurture that—it’s invaluable.

17. Try something new together


Instead of settling down in front of the television for the nth night in the row, why not try something new and different together? It’s a brilliant way of bringing some spice to your relationship!

18. “Love is not who you can see yourself with. It is who you can’t see yourself without.” (Anonymous)


19. Sorry goes a long way


Sometimes, it feels like the hardest thing to say, but man, can that simple word work wonders! Try just saying “I’m sorry” next time you’re in a fight, even if you’re not necessarily in the wrong. What’s more important—being right or moving on from the problem?

20. Start a tradition


Whether it’s a picnic every Sunday afternoon, pancakes at the diner every Saturday or a trip to the theatre every third Wednesday of the month, start a fun tradition together! Don’t underestimate the value of having something to look forward to on a regular basis with your loved one: not only will it give you an excuse to spend time together (as if you needed it!), it’ll also become “your thing” and you’ll be one of those couples. (You know you want to.)

21. Love yourself, too


While showering your other half with love and affection is super important, don’t forget to show yourself some TLC, too! By loving yourself, you become able to love others more. It’s magic!

22. “For love is immortality.” (Emily Dickinson)


23. Surprise each other!


While having date nights and traditions is great (obviously, given that I just told you so!), there’s much to be said for spontaneity and surprising your partner every once in a while to bring a little spark back into the relationship! Unless your other half absolutely hates surprises, don’t hold back. Do something out of the ordinary every once in a while: swing by your sweetheart’s office at lunch for an impromptu bite together, have a bunch of roses delivered on a whim (a girl can only dream)… These surprises don’t necessarily have to be huge; even the smallest change to a routine can be delightful!

24. Fight right


There will be times when it’ll be tempting to lash out at your partner, using unkind words to hurt. Although satisfying in the heat of the moment, fighting unfairly—with harsh words and accusations—doesn’t help the situation. When you hit a snag in your relationship, try to keep your calm; listen to what your other half has to say and tell them how you feel, too. Communicate. Compromise. Try as best you can to not tear each other apart, because the more you do, the harder it’ll be to come back from.

25. Go on adventures together!


Much like trying something new together or starting a tradition will help cement your relationship and give it staying power, leaving your respective comfort zones and going on adventures together will keep that passion going! (While you’re at it, totally do what this couple’s doing and share a bike. Or a tandem! Or any other equally cute means of transportation!)

26. Choose kindness


Choose to forgive rather than begrudge. Choose to lend a helping hand rather than be cold out of anger. Be a shoulder to cry on, rather than the accusatory finger. Choose to embrace, rather than shun. Relationships take work, and forgiveness, and compromise. Choose kindness.

27. Remember: it gets better with age!


From: http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/these-27-old-couples-will-remind-you-what-love-all-about.html

Wednesday, October 12, 2016



1. Good kissers keep it #real.

The #1 must-have for even a semi-deec kiss: You actually want to. If you're kissing someone only because it feels like what you "should" be doing ~in the moment~ or because you feel weird pressure, then STEP AWAY FROM THE FACE.

2. Good kissers stay fresh.

Would you want to be thisclose to someone's face space only to find that their mouth smells like the dumpster behind Olive Garden? Kay. If you're anticipating a trip to MakeoutTown, avoid the stank-inducing foods like garlic, onions, processed Cheetos-like cheese, etc. It's basic manners.

3. Good kissers Keep Calm and Carry Balm. 

No one can hate when your gloss game is strong, but actually mashing that onto a human's face is gross and cruel and no. Bae is probs trying to kiss your actual lips, not your Melon Mango Primer, so stick to that good ol' neutral lip balm.


4. Good kissers talk it out.

Listen, #aintnobodygottime for bleh makeouts. Expert kissers skip to the good parts by taking control and mentioning the things you do like ("So, that tongue move you just did. Yasss."), and show them alternatives to the things you don't. ("Hey, instead of that ... toothy … situation you did with my lip, how about you just graze it gently, like this?")

5. Good kissers channel the right emojis.

Here's a list of emojis not to be when kissing:

🐟: Open-mouthed and gasping for dear life.

🐶: How did your tongue get in my nostril?

🐤: Stop pecking at my face ARE MY LIPS SEEDS.

If you're channeling ANY emoji, it should be Pink Shirt Massaging Her Head: Relax your lips. Relax your life. You're a hot, awesome human, and this person is lucky (and probably also just as nervous) to be kissing You. Collect your chills and relax. 💆

6. Good kissers move ~like you're my miiiirrror~

I'm not mad at envisioning J.Timbs when kissing anyone, and
Bomb-dot-com kisses are a mirror dance — meaning, mimic: Slow down, take note of the things bae does, and gently do it back. Bust out moves you'd want them to do to you. Remember that the show's not all about you: You're both in control of this dance.

7. Good kissers know: Less is EVERYTHING.

Thinking too hard about going for some ~sexy trick~ you learned is how makeout seshes end up feeling like dental cleaning. Pro kissers know to start off small and slow, and to only #turnup if you feel like it's right. Oh, you'll know.

8. Good kissers ARE ANTI-HICKEY.

Question: Who thought it'd be sexy to literally be a mouth vacuum? Oh, no one? GREAT — then we're officially retiring The Hickey. Be nice to Bae's neck: Small kisses down from the jaw or gentle lip-brushes FTW.

9. Good kissers know that lips-only are for basics.

💋Under the jawbone.

💋Soft spot behind the earlobe.

💋The UGH-so-cute little dip in the collarbone.

💋Tip of the nose.

💋Inside the wrist.

💋Forehead. 💋Shoulder. 💋CLOSED EYELID. #THEPOSSIBILITIES.

Give the both of you a second to mouth-breathe again and freakin' explore!

10. Good kissers take the long route.

Consider this a Google Maps for your meggouts:

Start at the lips, kissing (NO TONGUE) gently down towards the chin, then all along the jawbone, towards the ear. From here, give their earlobe a little nip, or whisper softly … "So when are we getting Chipotle?" (Optional.)
Sneak up on bae from behind and kiss from the top of their shoulder, along the curve towards their ear. (And again, The Optional Whisper: "I want to eat an entire pizza with you.")
Gently kiss down the forehead, starting at the hairline, along the slope of the nose, ending at the lips. Congrats: You're now so goddamn cute.

11. Good kissers can make PDA not-obnoxious.

Bae will def appreciate the sneak-attack smooch:

💥Facing each other on the bus? BOOM, tip-of-the-nose.

💥Approaching them while they're sitting? BOOM, forehead.

💥Strolling along, holding hands? BOOM, knuckle-peck.

💥Are you vertically challenged and only come up to their shoulder? BOOM, shoulder smooch.

💥Lounging con Netflix? BOOM, inside-of-the-wrist lip-graze. (Careful. Tickles.)

12. Good kisser can keep their tongue in check

First Rule of Tongue: USE SPARINGLY. Start off by just finding their tongue with the tip of yours — almost like a gentle tongue fist-bump — then pull back. Try grazing past the tip of their tongue — then pull back. Circle the tip of their tongue — then pull back. (Drool and breath and blegh happens when you don't pull back.)

When you're feeling up for it, you can try running your tongue just along the inside of their upper lip, or pull a quick lick under their top lip in a sort of come-here/teeny-ice-cream-cone maneuver.

13. Good kissers don't nibble. Anything. EVER.

I'm sorry — the thought of someone "nibbling" on my lip the way I legitimately nibble on straws and pen caps and beef jerky GIVES ME THE ABSOLUTE FEAR. Why do we still tell each other to nibble?! Good teeth action starts with taking bae's bottom lip between your front teeth, giving a gentle tug, and letting go.

14. Good kissers play with the pre-game.

Before kissing, lean in and swipe your lips past theirs, slowly and lightly, then pull back. Take a one-two pause to bask in Bae's "OMG WTF I NEED YOUR FACE" reaction before going in for the kill. And for those feeling sass-tastic: If you've taken a break and are getting ready to lean back in, build up some anticipation by pulling back a half-inch and smiling, like "Not yet, sucker — Deal With It." Proceed with makeout as scheduled. #sorryneversorry

15. "But what do I do with my hands?!" you ask.

👋Both on either side of their head — with plans to slide back into their hair.

👋One on their lower back, and one behind the neck (can also venture into Hair Land).

👋Both hands lightly resting on their chest.

👋Both hands on hips, which can sneak around their lower back to squeeze.

👋One hand taking a selfie. (JK – just making sure you're still paying attention.) (But we'd be super impressed if you could pull it off, JS.)

👋One or both hands pulling on the neck of their shirt a little bit, towards you.

👋A few fingers up and down their spine, down the nape of their neck, or hovering around their cheeks and jaw.

16. Good kissers can manage bad kissers like a pro.

Pause an aggressive kisser by leaning back, putting a hand gently on their collarbone, and approaching v e r y s l o w l y — almost like saying, "Chill. Take it down 4 notches. Like this." Reroute an overly acrobatic kisser by pulling back, just enough so you can whisper, and say, "I like kissing you like this." Proceed with what you'd want done to you. (Pray that they've read this article and know how to mirror.)


HOW TO DO IT BETTER?


When it comes to jewelry, being creative can be a good way to make your choice of style stand out, here we have "give me a kiss" jewelry collection to help you express your passionate love. Kiss design makes them extra romantic that'll surely make you want to wear it again and again. Get yours now to let him or her know how much you love them!


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Nothing is more Hollywood-memorable than kissing in the rain, two people driven by their desperate, yearning love for each other, unable to wait another second to kiss the object of their affection. (Plus it’s an awesome way to get attractive stars into clingy, wet clothes.) It remains to be seen if Safe Haven has a scene like The Notebook, but we imagine they'll get all wet somehow. Meantime, here are our favorite kissing-in-the-rain scenes.

Dear John: As a couple torn apart by time and circumstance, Channing Tatum and Amanda Seyfried find a moment to lock lips in this Nicholas Sparks romantic drama. If only we all looked so beautiful when trapped in a rainstorm!


Breakfast at Tiffany’s: At the end of a very long and dramatic emotional journey, and after tearfully finding his heroine’s lost cat, George Peppard plants an iconic and meaningful kiss on Audrey Hepburn as they both get drenched in the New York rain.


Spider-Man (2002): One of the most famous and oft-imitated kisses of all time has Kirsten Dunst taking a decidedly different view of Tobey Maguire’s spidery action hero. While he’s stuck dangling upside down, Dunst takes matters into her own hands and lays one on him for all she’s worth.


The Notebook: In this Nick Cassavetes-directed Sparks tear-jerker, a torrential kiss in a climactic moment of the film finds Rachel McAdams leaping into Ryan Gosling’s eager arms as the two declare their love for one another.


4 Weddings and a Funeral: After serendipitously running into each other time and again at weddings and funerals across the country, Hugh Grant and Andie MacDowell cozy up to one another and share a romantic kiss in this classic British rom-com.


Step Up 2: In this much-acclaimed sequel to the surprise 2006 hit, worlds collide when dancers from different backgrounds must work and dance together. Fighting your feelings only works for so long, as Robert Hoffman and Briana Evigan share a tender moment after dancing up a storm.


Australia: While the critics may have panned this epic film from down under that follows the struggles of cattle ranchers and landowners during World War II, but we still loved this tender kiss between star-crossed lovers Hugh Jackman and Nicole Kidman.


Chasing Amy: After fighting relentlessly about how they shouldn’t be together for a host of perfectly good reasons, Joey Lawrence Adams finally succumbs to her feelings and chases after Ben Affleck, kissing him passionately in the downpour.


Little Women: Set against the backdrop of the Civil War, one woman seeks to find love and meaning even as her world falls apart. Though it seems as if all hope has been lost in a misunderstanding, Winona Ryder chases after Gabriel Byrne and declares her love for him, kissing him gently as the rain beats down upon them.


Daredevil: Life imitates art, as now-married couple Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner lock lips on screen in the action hero movie <i>Daredevil</i>. Fun fact: The pair shared this kiss a full two years before they eventually married in 2005.


A Cinderella Story: Though she’s had a crush on her very own Prince Charming for ages, kissing Chad Michael Murray is still a fairy tale dream come true for Hilary Duff in this teen romance that puts a new spin on an old classic.


Match Point: This Woody Allen thriller finds one man plotting to end his marriage as he lusts after another woman, but nothing, not even the unexpected rain in the English countryside, can keep Ewan McGregor from locking lips with Scarlett Johansson. And why not?












ANOTHER GREAT KISSING


When it comes to jewelry, being creative can be a good way to make your choice of style stand out, here we have "give me a kiss" jewelry collection to help you express your passionate love. Kiss design makes them extra romantic that'll surely make you want to wear it again and again. Get yours now to let him or her know how much you love them!


Kiss Necklaces

Kiss Bracelets